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How to pick a book as a gift
Books are a wonderful gift under three specific conditions and a gamble outside them. Here are the conditions, and what to do when none of them applies.
By Scooter M. · Published · Last updated
The three conditions, in detail
1. You know they have not read it
Rarer than it sounds. “They probably have not read it” is not the same thing, and a dedicated reader in their own genre has usually already found the obvious candidates. The reliable version is a book published in the last few weeks, or one so far outside their usual reading that they would not have encountered it.
2. It is a beautiful edition of something they already love
This is the strongest case for giving a book and it is almost never the one people take. Somebody who loves a novel and owns a battered paperback of it will be genuinely delighted by a clothbound or illustrated hardback, and the duplicate risk is not a risk at all — it is the point.
It requires knowing one book they love, which is far less information than knowing what they have not read.
3. The book is really from you
A book you loved, with a note in the front saying why you thought of them. That is a different gift from a recommendation — it is a piece of you rather than an attempt at matching their taste, and it survives them having read it already.
The four questions if none of the three applies
The formats that are safest
A short story or essay collection. No commitment, can be dipped into, and much less likely to have been read than a well-known novel.
Non-fiction in an area they are interested in but do not read about. Somebody who loves gardening and reads fiction has probably not read the good gardening books.
A beautiful edition, as above. The single best version of this gift.
What to avoid: the bestseller everyone read two years ago, book one of a long series, and anything described as “important” that they have not asked about.
Two ways to hedge
A gift receipt, which is unromantic and solves the entire problem. Or pair a small book with something from the non-book side of this site — a bookmark tucked into it, a clip light beside it — so that if the book misses, the gift does not.
What to do when you think they might already own it goes further into that specific problem, and hardcover versus paperback covers the format decision once you have chosen the title.
Answers
Questions people actually ask
Are books a good gift?
Under three conditions: you know they have not read it, you are buying a beautiful edition of something they already love, or the book is genuinely from you — something you loved, with a note explaining why. Outside those three the duplicate risk is real, and a reader in their own genre has usually already found the obvious candidates.
How do you choose a book for someone else?
Ask what they read most recently rather than what their favorite book is — recent reading tells you the current mood, which is far more predictive. Then check whether they finish books, whether they read paper or screen, and avoid starting anyone on book one of a long series, which is homework rather than a present.
What kind of book is safest to give?
A short story or essay collection, because it asks for no commitment and is much less likely to have been read than a well-known novel. Non-fiction about something they are interested in but do not usually read about is the other reliable choice — someone who loves gardening and reads fiction has probably not read the good gardening books.
What should you not give as a book gift?
The bestseller everyone read two years ago, book one of a nine-book series, and anything described as important that they have not asked about. All three are variations on the same problem: they are about the giver's sense of what should be read rather than about what this person would enjoy receiving.